My Darling Boy Lays In His Bed.

 

 

It has been some time since I last blogged, because I have been busy being Mum to my son who has just recently been to hospital for surgery. My poor little Mighty Mouse has been requiring lots of extra loving tender care from his family as he recovers at home. As Mum I have been required to just drop everything and be there for him.

So I wrote a Poem called :My Darling Boy Lays In His Bed.

Bruised and battered is his face.

Quiet and limp his body has become.

Unable to laugh.

Unable to cry.

My darling boy lay in his bed.

His medicine he takes.

Blood pressure, pulse,temperature he allows chirpy nurses to take.

The uncomfortable blood stain tape on his face he allows to remain.

The doctors prodding inside his tender sore swollen mouth he allows,

without a single complaint.

My darling boy lay in his bed.

He dose not complain.

He dose not cry.

The pain and discomfort he takes in his stride.

He has proven to be a strong little man.

My darling boy lay in his bed.

I am no good at poetry, however that was just the easiest way to explain it. Now he is at home recovering. Eating lots of soup and custard, and playing with his beloved Devil teddy.

Wishing you all a wonderful day!

 

Simple Pleasures Can Bring Joy to Everyday Life!

 

 

Life is so busy, and often the busy work of home life can be mundane and dreary. I have to admit I find it hard to get excited about making beds, washing and ironing, cleaning, cooking, getting children organised for school, activities, and bed. Then the fact I have to get up the next day and do it all again. If that all their was to life it would be so boring.

I am fortunate I do work a little bit out side of the home in a job that has lots of variety and challenge. I am also fortunate in that I seek out ways to add joy into my daily life. It doesn’t matter if you are a stay at home Mum/Dad, or if you have a mundane job, it should be a priority to find the simple things that add joy to your life. It could be that special pen, or even lunch in the park. For me the simple things that add joy to my life are the sound of relaxing music, and the aroma’s of burning candles and oils. Walks in the park or around the lake where I live, which can often become walking adventures. Simply taking time out to sit on the couch, sip tea, and read a book. In the morning I receive much joy from simply journalling. In the evenings I may take some time to sit down with my son and watch a favourite Television show, at the moment we are enjoying watching the voice.

Life can be full of drudgery and monotony  if you let it be. However joy can be found in the ordinary. It can be found in the feeling of fresh sheets, the aroma’s of cooking or simply siting on the couch, sipping tea and staring out a window. Joy can be found in the thing we  add to our life, like music, reading, conversations, and hobbies.These simple things that bring joy into our lives make life more interesting and enticing. I don’t look forward to the washing, however I always look forward to my cup of tea or a walk in the Park.  I encourage you to seek out simple ways to add joy to your life.

What ways can you bring more joy to your everyday life?

Wishing you all a great day!

Wonderful Wishcasting Wednesday!

 

It has been a wonderful Wednesday with oodles of fun at my Zumba class, which was full of wonderful crazy fun, and a really good work out. Tonight I have just been for a delightful evening stroll in the wind, with my Husband, son Mighty Mouse , and dog little Miss Popularity. Now to make wishes for Wishcasting Wednesday

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A walk around the lake.

Wishcasting Wednesday is by Jamie Ridler at;  http://jamieridlerstudios.ca and today she asks the question: What do you wish to welcome in? I really had to think about this question and ponder on it.

I wish to have a welcoming home, that invites love, family, friends and lots of good warm energy in.

I wish to welcome into my life more love, creativity, fun, joy, and opportunities to do interesting activities and go interesting places.

I wish to welcome into my life more quality time with my family like family days out, and evening walks, chats at the dinner table, and conversations on the couch.

I wish to welcome in more opportunities to learn and grow.

I wish to welcome in more positive people into my life, people who will guide me in the right direction, people who will encourage me to have a go, and generally have an uplifting view of life.

I wish to welcome in more deep and meaningful  conversations with people.

After all that I found so much I wish to welcome into my life, and I am extremely grateful for all the joy and wonderful people who I already have in my life. So finally I wish to welcome in more joy, love and good health for others.

So go check out Wishcasting Wednesday at http://jamieridlerstudios.ca and make your own wonderful wishes.

As you wish for yourself, so I wish for you also!
Wishing you all a wonderful day!

 

New Beginnings

Super Mum I am not, wish I could be, then I might not be stressing out so much.  

Mr. Serious started a new school on Friday. It was such a big job preparing him for his new school. New uniforms and schoolbooks, new shoes, and learning to tie a tie. Thanks to You Tube for the tie knot lessons. I felt unorganized and lost at times as I got my son ready for school. I worried will he be happy, will he cope and will he make new friends. Small things went wrong, I after his first day at school he came home without his books that he needed. I know he had a lot of new information to take in, and was probably feeling overwhelmed Also his iPad was not connected up so he had no timetable, despite being told they would get their timetables first day. So this morning my anxiety levels about his new school were sitting on extreme high. It just seemed like things were going all wrong, and I was the worst mother in the world. It so hard to feel helpless and not be able to do anything. This whole day I have been feeling anxious. I know it is only temporarily, I know it doesn’t help,  however the anxiety is there as strong as ever. Today I try to distract myself. I take myself for a long walk; it helps, as I need to slow down. It is hard for me to accept I need to let go and just let things workout by themselves. I am so used to things running so smoothly at school in the past.  I am also stressed because I am working out a new drop off and pick up routine. It also surprises me that I feel so stressed about it all, I know it is not logical, I guess I feel guilty and mean for sending him to this new school, where he is so alone, because it is not the school his friends went too. I guess I am anxious because I feel I have let him down, and he wouldn’t let me come into the school and help him because I am his mum and that would be embarrassing. I suppose it would, it doesn’t make me feel any better about the matter. Then I go to pick him, and the relaxing feeling that I got from walking disappeared. It was a frenzy of cars, and I had to park a kilometre down the road. I also think I was parked illegally however I had to dump my car somewhere. This is the part of Suburban living I hate, you need a car to get to places and so does everyone else. So you just end up with bumper to bumper traffic in local streets. It too far to walk and the boys go to school in different suburbs. Mighty Mouse goes to a Special School, and the nearest Special School is 20-30 minutes away depending on traffic. So I have to try to be at two places at the one time. I think that is what stresses me out the most. So it looks like I am going to be doing a lot of driving in the next 6 years. Yes I did suggest the school bus, oh no, he wants Mum to pick him up. Sometimes it is really hard to be a Mum!

Lazy Tuesday!

Today I was slack! I spent the morning in bed reading a book. I did some journalling, sat outside sipped tea and enjoyed the sunshine. I brushed my dog and groomed her, she was very knotty, this took me about an hour to get all her knots out. Once beautiful again we rewarded her with a walk around the lake. It was a lazy day with snippets of house work here and there. Watching the boys play with their remote control car, I even had a go but they all laughed at my driving.   I enjoyed my lazy day.

Today’s question on the NaBloPoMo blog challenge is: As a superhero, would you rather have extreme strength or extreme speed?

As a superhero I think I would prefer extreme speed, like the Mum on the series No Ordinary Family. I would love to speed around and get all my house work done in minutes. Speed from place to place even faster than driving. Being able to go from one place to another in minutes. I would love to be a speed reader and learner. On second thoughts I really want to slow down, so I can take it all in and enjoy every moment. I don’t want my life to speed past me, and then think I accomplished so much, but what did I experience, feel, and see. I want to take the time to appreciate my life, and to savour every moment the good and the bad.  I want to take the time to appreciate the people I love in my life, especially my children.  I only get one life and I don’t want it to speed past. I want the power to slow down and live more simply. I think the following quote states it beautifully:

“Always remember to slow down in life; live, breathe, and learn; take a look around you whenever you have time and never forget everything and every person that has the least place within your heart.”
–Anonymous

 

Wonder Woman

 

 

Todays question in the January NaBloPoMo Challenge is : If you were a superhero, what would be your hidden superpower?

 

If I was a super hero I would be Wonder Woman, and my super power would be to be able to do it all, and not feel tired at the end of the day. I want to be Super Mum, and be there for my children, and spend time with them. I want to be Super Wife, be able to have a super clean house, and delicious meals on the table every night and also have time to spend with my husband.  I want to be Super Dog Mum and walk my dog every day. I want to be super good at my job, and put time and energy into it. Reality I am no super hero, sometimes I struggle to be a good mum, my house is not super clean, and no I don’t get those delicious meal on the table every night. Whilst sometimes I am too tired and grumpy to spend time with my husband. I also do my best at my job. However juggling everything, makes me a little crazy, I mix up the kids lunch boxes, I forget to put the milk bag out. I do lots of silly things because I am tired and not thinking straight. Then I hear myself saying , What do you expect, I am not Wonder Woman you know? The only answer I get back is Why not?    I don’t know why not, I just know I am not Wonder Woman.

 

Spent some time by myself this morning and went out window shopping, had coffee and a pastry. I spent an hour just looking at all the beautiful shop windows, however I didn’t buy anything. Still it is always nice to look at beautiful things. I took time out to enjoy a coffee and pastry and watch the people walking past. Then it was time to go to work. Work was very busy, and now at the end of the day I am very tired.

More Clear Spaces Less Clutter

Have nothing in your houses that you do not know
to be useful or believe to be beautiful.”
William Morris 

My son tells me I am odd, because we don’t have lots of stuff in our house.

However I don’t like lots of stuff.

I like clear space.

I like the energy to flow through the house.

I like my stuff to have a home.

I like my stuff to useful.

I do collect stuff that I love or has some significant importance to me, I just have my limits.

We have enough stuff in our house to meet all our needs, plenty of stuff to play with, and plenty of stuff to look at and admire.

I think we could do with less stuff, I try to get rid of the clutter, I try to find a home for everything.

Young Mighty Mouse loves his stuff, he plays with all his toys, he just loves everything in his room. So the will not give up a single toy. All his toys and teddies give him so much pleasure however they drive me crazy, especially when he has them out all over his floor.

I try to get comfortable with having some mess in my house, because in my home some of us are tidy freaks and some of us are messy freaks. Together we get a not too messy lived in home.

Yesterday my husband put in shelves and more hanging space in the boys rooms.

Today I spent the day finding new homes for all their stuff and trying to throw out some old stuff except for Mighty Mouse who won’t throw out anything.

Mr. Serious had no problems giving up those toys he claimed he was too old for, he just kept what he really wanted or felt would be useful.

I have better things to do with my time than taking care of stuff I don’t need or don’t really want.

The curious question I ask myself is how did it get into my house?

Mostly I let other people bring it in, the children have been blessed and given an abundance of presents over the years, they have also been very diligent at looking after all their stuff. Yes and sometimes I buy stuff I don’t really need. Finally I struggle to get rid of stuff, I am sure it will all find a good home but I feel guilty and ungrateful for removing it from my house.

All this stuff kept me occupied all day, however it will be worth it as removing the clutter will increase my freedom to enjoy the days and months ahead.

I love my home with all its clear spaces.

A new motto I will try to teach my boys: something in equals something out.

“The more you have, the more you are occupied. 
The less you have, the more free you are.” 
Mother Teresa 

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Mummy Exhaustion

Todays NaBloPoMo Challenge question about energy is: Talk about a time when you used up an extraordinary amount of energy and were exhausted?

Once upon a time a mum lived in the suburbs. She had a loveable 6 month old son. He had been challenging in many ways, mostly by screaming all night and wanting to sleep in Mum and Dad’s bed. His mum had tried to get him to sleep better at nights, and took him to sleep school, where they tried wonderful tools like controlled crying. This child had an amazing set of lungs, and screamed all day. No one could settle him. He had failed sleep school whilst all the other babies past. So his mother spent many nights sleep deprived and many days mummy tired. It was part of the process of being a Mum.  She learnt through experience that motherhood includes periods of exhaustion.

Then when her first son was 20 months old she had another son. He was born with multiple abnormalities and spent his first 6 weeks of life in the hospital. One of his health issues was that he had a sever bilateral cleft lip and palate. He was fed with a special squeeze bottle and took 45-60 minutes to feed. initially he would take 7-8 hours to feed a day. His mother also expressed breast milk for him, to give him the best milk. She took him to the hospital nearly every week for his doctors appointments as he had a number of health issues. She sat with him in hospital day and night when he had his operations. She also had her first son, a toddler who was  had learnt how to throw tantrums at home , and who excerpted lots of toddler attitude to look after as well. Life was so busy she would collapse on the bed every night. She even thought the reason her second son slept so well at night was he was exhausted from his busy days of feeding and hospital appointments, she certainly was. Normal mother exhaustion had jumped to a whole new level. She was so exhausted that life was hard work. The first year of her son life was a year-long of extreme exhaustion and lots of persistence. Deep in her heart she knew all the hard work was worth it. Her baby boy would grow up to be an amazing little boy and he did. He is the Amazing Mighty Mouse. 

Dreamy Sleep and Sandstorm.

Today question about energy on the NaBloPoMo January Challenge is: If you could be given the option to never sleep and also never be tired, would you take it if it meant you’d also never dream again?

I love sleep. I actually look foreword to going to bed and snuggling under the covers.

The idea of 8 hours escape from the world in my comfy cosy bed is just delightful and I am not prepared to give it up.

It makes me feel good. It refreshes my body and mind.

I know from years of shift work the cost of not sleeping due to sleep deprivation it is called craziness, and time spent in the emotional mess zone.

So no way am I giving up my sleep.

Sleep to me equals my sanity.

Ofcourse my dreams are important, and I can not imagine giving up my dreams the good ones and the more disturbing ones.

Infact it is dreamy just thinking about snuggling down in my bed for a good nights sleep, and may delightful dreams come my way.

Under the Sea, Sandstorm Frankston Waterfront 2013

Whilst during the daylight hours I went for a family adventure to see the amazing sand sculptures at Sand Storm on the Frankston Waterfront.

The theme this year was Under the Sea.

The sand sculptures were amazing, detailed, creative, and visually spectacular.

So many characters from mermaids, giant octopuses and giant turtles.

Took so many photo’s, because so many special sculptures to capture.

So enjoyable we go every year, and every year the theme is different and the sculptures are amazing.

What a dreamy day!

I don’t mind being tired from enjoying delightful daytime activities.

I will sleep well tonight.

Goodnight!

Laundry Zapping My Energy

Washing and Ironing.

Yesterday I felt so rested, so relaxed, my energy levels were very high. Today reality, unpacking, washing, washing, washing, then ironing, ironing and more ironing. Even the clean clothes managed to get covered in dirt and sand, that is the thing about camping, the dirt. Everything gets so dirty. Well today after much washing and ironing it is all clean again. However now my energy levels have been depleted, I feel so tired. It is amazing how house work can be such an energy zapper. Even the thought of doing the dishes, cooking tea and sweeping floors seems like hard work. So I just have to take a break, relax, have a glass of wine and listen to a podcast. Then I might be in the mood to do more house work, or maybe I will be ok with ignoring the fact that it actually needs doing, and continue on in holiday mode just a big longer.